There are many ways to memorialize a child lost to miscarriage or other reproductive loss. These memorial practices can help you process your loss and transform isolating pain into a path to peace and comfort.
These are just a few suggestions. Feel free to create your own.
- Hold a memorial service for yourself and your loved ones impacted by the loss. This service can be held in a tranquil, special location, or simply in your home or garden. This service can also be held multiple times, such as:
- Soon after the loss
- Annually on the anniversary of the loss
- Mother’s Day
- Holiday time
- Anytime
- Create a beautiful, tranquil area of remembrance in your home. A place to reflect, remember and find peace.
- Plant a tree or create a small memorial garden.
- Display a memorial statue, inside or outside of your home.
- Create a special place within your home to memorialize. Even a hidden space, just for you, can help you process and remember.
- Create a “memorial box” that can include sonograms, photos and other keepsakes.
- Send sympathy cards.
- Sending a card within the first few months of the loss is thoughtful.
- Sending a card on the anniversary of the loss is deeply appreciated. Parents' biggest fear is that no one will remember their child. You assure them that you, too, remember. Cards specifically for pregnancy and reproductive loss can be found at our Shop.
- Don’t forget that men grieve too. Don’t leave him out when you send your card.
- Gift a memorial remembrance item, such as a candle, medal or stone. If you are the one who had a miscarriage, be kind to you and send a gift to yourself.
- If you practice a faith, ask your faith leader to help. One option is to mention your loss in a service. Or your faith leader can hold a congregation-wide service to memorialize all pregnancy losses within your community. In this type of service, you’ll see that you are not alone in your loss. Two good times to hold this type of service are:
- In October for Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month
- On October 15th for Pregnancy & Infant Loss Remembrance Day
Feel free to create your own memorializing experience or event.
Want to tell us about your memorialization experience? Share your story anonymously on MiscarriageHurts.com, or email us.
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